Author Archive | Christina

You’re about to read the Postscript. Want to start this story from the beginning? Go here. “Love is a 24/7 job.” I feel a little anxious about the ending of this blog. For nearly two months, I have had a defined focus, an anchor in my heartache. Now this project is finished, except of course […]

You’re about to read Chapter 49. Want to start this story from the beginning? Go here. When I first started this project, Lesson 49 seemed impossibly far away. Now that it is here, I am sort of freaking out. Because now that I am at the end, I can see this is only the beginning. […]

You’re about to read Chapter 48. Want to start this story from the beginning? Go here. I have to say, I am really grateful I am almost been done with this book. Because, well, I am pretty much done with this book. I am also not feeling my very best so maybe that is why […]

You’re about to read Chapter 47. Want to start this story from the beginning? Go here. I am exhausted and I miss Paul and I am not pleased about either of those facts (or are they feelings?). But I am not repressing my current reality. In fact, in keeping with the topic of today’s lesson, […]

You’re about to read Chapter 46. Want to start this story from the beginning? Go here. This is straight-up a placeholder post It’s the afternoon of Thanksgiving and I am struggling just a bit. I want to enjoy my limited family time, but the truth is that I feel out of sorts. No one is […]

You’re about to read Chapter 45. Want to start this story from the beginning? Go here. I’m so tired I feel like crying, but I don’t want to shortchange this post. Still, I give myself permission to do exactly that, because sleep is my most important act of self-care. And when I am with family […]

You’re about to read Chapter 44. Want to start this story from the beginning? Go here. Okay so the title of this chapter nearly freaked me out, it’s so similar to a life motto I kinda thought I invented. But I guess there are really no new ideas. And anyway, my own personal directive to “let […]

You’re about to read Chapter 43. Want to start this story from the beginning? Go here. “The Enchanted Life” really just means “The Grateful Life.” And I am so grateful to be living it. Week 7 out of 7 has begun First of all, although I have consciously avoided making too much fuss about tracking […]

You’re about to read Chapter 42. Want to start this story from the beginning? Go here. For the first time in forty-two consecutive days, I am at a loss for words. How fitting, then, that Lesson 42 is about speaking up. Of course I have plenty to say The truth is, I’m tired. I cried […]

You’re about to read Chapter 41. Want to start this story from the beginning? Go here. I confess: I love to talk. Like, a lot. But listening is so, so, so much more important. “For truly, listening is love in action.” I love listening. For a long time, I was a terrible listener. It wasn’t […]

You’re about to read Chapter 40. Want to start this story from the beginning? Go here. Given that I am currently dwelling in a time of deep uncertainty, the topic of Lesson 40 is certainly appropriate. But that doesn’t mean I enjoyed it. The anxiety of not knowing Katherine confesses that she often finds it […]

You’re about to read Chapter 39. Want to start this story from the beginning? Go here. I forgive you, I forgive you, I forgive you, I forgive you, I am willing to see this differently. I forgive you, I forgive you, I forgive you, I am willing to see this differently.  Last night I blinked […]

You’re about to read Chapter 38. Want to start this story from the beginning? Go here. I don’t believe in the bogeyman and I never really did, so I wish Katherine had chosen a better title for Lesson 38. Something like “Acknowledging Your Fears” would have been perfectly apt, but whatever. Title notwithstanding, this lesson […]

You’re about to read Chapter 37. Want to start this story from the beginning? Go here. Taking responsibility for my own happiness is the smartest, bravest, hardest thing I’ve ever done. And every day feels like a do-over. First of all, let’s just get this Sheryl Crow reference out of the way I don’t actually […]

You’re about to read Chapter 36. Want to start this story from the beginning? Go here. I don’t want to stop loving Paul. More to the point, I don’t seem able to stop loving Paul. And to the point of Lesson 36, I definitely do not have to. True love is not a trade-off If we are […]

You’re about to read Chapter 35. Want to start this story from the beginning? Go here. “My singleness is a privilege, not a punishment. I am choosing it in every moment, at some level at least, or it would not be happening.” That’s something I wrote in 2014 right after I got home from seeing […]

You’re about to read Chapter 34. Want to start this story from the beginning? Go here. I’ll be honest. I straight up don’t feel like writing about feelings right now. I read Lesson 34, and I did the homework. And for today, that just might have to be enough. [Editor’s Note: Naturally, I then go […]

You’re about to read Chapter 33. Want to start this story from the beginning? Go here. It probably sounds arrogant (or ignorant?) to say this, but I believe I am sexually healed. Unfortunately I don’t feel comfortable explaining entirely why, because it involves Paul, and I am very aware that he is not aware of […]

You’re about to read Chapter 32. Want to start this story from the beginning? Go here. Okay so I just danced around naked while listening to the latest Taylor Swift, and I am digging into a pint of Haagen-Dazs Cookies & Cream while I write this. In other words, I am in a good place […]